Sorry that I haven’t posted in a while. I just haven’t been in a joking mood. I find more and more things in online dating that are NOT funny especially the way that women are treated. But let’s put that aside for now and let me tell you a little story. I apologize for the lack of pictures, this was from before I started documenting this crazy journey.
I had been on OKC for several years, off and on. Last Christmas, after a disastrous “relationship” with a guy, a friend suggested that I try POF. So in the spirit of new beginnings, after the New Year I created a profile on there. I started chatting with this guy and he seemed really nice. We started talking about meeting up but after giving it some thought, I realized that I was still upset about the last guy and that this would just be rebound and I was not ready to start dating anybody. I messaged this guy and told him that. He messages me back, kind of angrily, asking me why I was on a dating site if I wasn’t ready to date. I told him that I thought I was ready but when we started making plans to meet, I realized I wasn’t ready. Obviously I didn’t purposefully lead him on. He basically said “whatever” and that was that.
Being busy with work and whatnot, I didn’t go back to online dating for several months. Once I did, I checked my OKC profile first and saw a message that this guy (from POF) had sent to me that said “I thought you weren’t ready to date?”. Now, I should have known better and left it alone but for some reason, I don’t like thinking there are people out there thinking badly of me. Well, unless I deserve it, of course 😛 So I message him back (on OKC) and tell him that it was an old profile and that I wasn’t actively using it when I told him I wasn’t ready to date. He was very nice and pleasant and we started talking again. A couple of days later we were chatting and I told him I was on my way out to hang out with my sister for the evening. I got home late and noticed that he had written me a whole long story about his life. Since it was late and I was tired, I figured that I would just reply to him in the morning. In the middle of the night, my geriatric dog woke me up to go outside. I let him out and while I was waiting for him to come back inside, I decided to re-read the message this guy had sent me and reply. However, unbeknownst to me while I had been sleeping, he had messaged me again asking me what he said that made me “flake out”. Waaaaaiiittt. What? I replied that I had told him that I was going out with my sister that night and that I had gotten home late and didn’t have time to read his message and reply. Then sitting there in bed, waiting for my dog to get his little old butt back inside, I started getting angry. One time I didn’t reply right away and he calls that flaking out? What the hell? All these alarms started going off in my head. Again, a situation in which I didn’t owe this guy anything. I had done nothing wrong. So I messaged him again and told him that I felt insulted that he would say I flaked out after not responding ONCE, especially since I had already told him I would be busy. I told him that it gave me a bad feeling and that I didn’t want to continue talking to him. And then I blocked him.
Now remember, the first time I spoke with him was on POF. The subsequent conversations and blocking were done on OKC. A few days ago I saw that he visited my profile on POF. Ugh. Thankfully though, he has not contacted me. But if he does, I’ll know better than to respond!