This post isn’t about dating or even dating sites. This is about how #YesAllWomen have been harassed by men. Please note that the hashtag is NOT yes all men. Not every man out there has harassed a woman. But it’s sad to say that the story I’m about to share happens to women all the time. Especially online. Oh, and I’m not blacking out his handle because he deserves to be called out.
This happened on an app where you can post pics that you can modify to mimic a style of painting/art. I started getting notifications that this person was liking and commenting on a lot of my pictures. I go check it out and the first one seems innocent enough:
Ok, yeah, whatever. He means it as a compliment. Next one:
At this point I’m thinking “these pics are all modified using filters!” But, whatever. He can live in his little fantasy land. Next one starts getting a little much:
But “fuck” is my favorite word so I can’t be all hypocritical about him using it. This next one, I take offense to:
Really??? You can think it all you want, but it’s rude to post that. Keep thoughts like that to yourself! And then there’s more…
This one’s a little borderline. It probably wouldn’t have bothered me as much if it hadn’t just been preceded by the “perfect tits” comment.
Ok, context. This is was a comment on a pic I had initially taken for some of my Fellow tentacle loving Slack friends. Here it is for reference:
Yes, it is a little provocative and sexy. But dude, calm yourself a little, k? Oh, and if you for one second thought “you were asking for it”, you can just go take a long walk off a short pier.
Ok, guy. Notice the comment above you. That is an acceptable compliment. Your comment is disgusting and insulting. What makes you think you can post something like that to a complete stranger? One that you’ve never even interacted with?
WTF is wrong with you?!?!? Again, this is not a compliment!!! I don’t even know you. We have not initiated any sort of relationship or flirty banter in which this would be acceptable.
You’re a disgusting pig. And also 🤬🤬🤬
Wha….. how…. HOW IS THIS OK????
That was the last comment he posted. I shudder to think what his pic would have been of. Thankfully, I will never know. Because by the time I got to this comment and went to report him, his profile had already been deleted. I can only assume he was harassing multiple women he was “in love” with.
So there you go. This is how it is for ALL WOMEN. Guys, think twice before posting stuff like that. Unless it’s someone you know AND someone you know would appreciate being spoken to like that, just don’t. Keep it to yourself. No woman deserves to be treated like that (unless she’s specifically given you permission to treat her that way – no kink shaming here). So the moral of this story is: If you’re ever unsure about whether or not your comment will be taken as an insult, check with a female friend first or JUST DON’T POST IT.