Pick Up Lines and Buying Drinks
I will preface this post by saying that these are my opinions and by no means the opinions of all women. However, I feel that the majority of women would agree with me on this.
First up: pick up lines. I would like to go back in time and find the guy who invented pick up lines and punch him in the face. Why can’t a guy just introduce himself? A simple: “Hi, my name is [fill in the blank]” will impress me a hundred times more than a stupid pick up line that every woman has probably heard a million times before. I get that approaching a stranger that you find attractive can be intimidating but trying to break the ice with a lame line doesn’t make it better. Especially considering that the majority of those pick up lines insinuate that the woman in question will be having sex with the guy later that night. So what you’re saying is that you either: 1.) think I’m a slut and will have sex with you or 2.) you’re hoping that I’m a slut and you want to get your point across that you’re up for having sex with me tonight. Who gave guys permission to treat women like sexual objects without thoughts or feelings from their opening line on? And sometimes pick up lines can get down right creepy. A few years ago, a friend and I were at a bar when a “gentleman” old enough to be our father comes over to us. “You girls don’t look old enough to be in here.” I couldn’t help myself, I had to respond to that. “So what you’re saying is that you think we are underage and because of that you are hitting on us? Don’t you think that’s a little sick?” The guy mumbled something and walked away. I guess the thought of statutory rape was a turn on for him. Unfortunately for him, it’s not a turn on for me.
Next up: sending over drinks. Again, I get that you’re trying to break the ice. And I have nothing against sending over a drink in and of itself. What I do have a problem with is when the guy (or guys) send over a drink and then sit there, waiting for you to come over and say thank you. It makes me feel like a prostitute. Like the guy has bought me, so now I have to go over there. No thanks. If you want to send a drink over and then a minute later come over and introduce yourself, that’s fine (as long as you say “Hi, my name is [fill in the blank]” and not a pick up line). But using a free drink as bait to get me to go over to you makes me feel like an object. Oh and just because you decided to buy me a drink does not mean I owe you anything.
So let’s review folks: women are people. Approach us and introduce yourself like you would a potential employer that you would like to impress. Not like an object put on this earth simply for your enjoyment.